
We were going to hear an essay I’d written performed at the Dallas Museum of Art’s Texas Bound Reading Series, and as we waited to board the plane, I felt something close to giddy.
It had been a long time since we’d all gone anywhere together like that. Jobs, husbands, and children all pull us in different directions now that we’re grown up. We all live about five minutes from each other, but it’s still remarkably hard to get together. Life gets in the way.
And so, a trip. We all signed on as soon as we heard the essay had been chosen for the program. It was a great excuse to get together, and go stay in a hotel, and order room service. Plus, the essay is all about how great my mom is, and how I endeavor every day to take care of my own children as well as she took care of us. We all wanted to stand up and cheer for that.
I can’t remember the last time we took a family vacation, just the four of us like we used to be. My parents divorced when I was young, and that feeling of belonging to a house full of girls still lingers with me. Even though the house itself is long-sold. Even though the girls themselves have grown up.
On the plane ride up and back, I sat next to my little sister. I watched her hands as she gestured and spoke, and I couldn’t believe how much they still look like the hands she had when she was a little girl. I can still remember her four-year-old hands—I can see them in my mind: how soft they were, the curve of the fingernails.
Of course, when you’re young, you define yourself in opposition to your family. If your sister is a cheerleader, you have to be something else. When you live in the close quarters of a family home, sometimes all you can see is how the people around you are not the same.
But then you go out into the wide world. And those freckles your sisters have, or that particular tilt to the eyebrows, or that manner of walking—these things aren’t out there in the quantities you might have assumed. You start to miss them. You start to miss all the things about your childhood home that you cannot get back. Once you’re out, you wish you could back in.
But you can’t. Instead, you take trips and order room service.
This morning at breakfast we constructed elaborate plans to take a girls’ weekend—just the four of us—every year. Just to reconnect. Just to get a little taste of home. Who knows if we’ll actually do it? But one thing was clear to me this weekend, as we walked with our rolling bags through the concourse: Sometimes you have to go away to get home.
You can visit her website at http://www.katherinecenter.com/.
Katherine, what a sweet story! I don’t get to connect with some of my sisters nearly enough, either, so i would love to do a girl’s getaway with them. This post makes me appreciate the times I do get to see them.
Margay
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Katherine (my first-born’s name, btw) – plan the girls’ getaway soon. Two of my sisters and I did that for the past four years (plus we took 3 of our daughters). We visited the city where my youngest went to college and stayed at a fabulous hotel. Just 2 nights but what fun we had. Now since my daughter has graduated college, and the whole economy plunge – we skipped this year. And we all miss it. We may have to plan something soon.
At any rate, I love (and totally identify with) what you wrote about sisters, and how we look at ourselves re: family. So true.
Dar, please enter me in the giveaway. Thanks for hosting Katherine. Great post!
Here’s my email : )
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I’d sure like a nice trip :)We’ll see this summer
Enter me, I would love to read this book
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I have to say that Katherine is right, you do sometimes have to get out of the family and return to it via vacation to see what you are missing. Having a family getaway years later sounds like a great idea. My brother recently came down to visit without my parents and it was more entertaining than I thought it would be.
This sounds like a great book. Thanks for the review and guest post.
One of the best gifts my sister and I ever gave my mom was a trip for the 3 of us. We all have wonderful memories of the weekend. Great post.
Ahhh, hands. I recently reconnected with an uncle I had not seen in about 15 years. I was struck by how much his hands resembled my deceased father’s. I kept asking to look at his hands! And at the other end . . . with every baby born into our family, I check for the “family toes.” I’d love a chance to read Katherine’s book — thank you for the giveaway!
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Aww loved her essay about her little sister! So sweet.
One of these days I’ll take time to smell the flowers, if I could only get my kids to do so also without fighting for position.
Dar, Please enter me in the giveaway! Thanks for the post.
MarieBurton2004
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A girls weekend once a year? Can I come? Please enter me in the giveaway!
Oops, here is my e-mail: wordblog(at)optonline(dot)net!
I have three younger sisters and though we all have families of our own now, we still identify ourselves with who we were when we were four little girls sharing the same room. Katherine’s mother must be so proud — an essay in her honour!
No need to enter … just wanted to say how much I enjoyed reading this guest post.
a yearly girls weekend is a brilliant idea. that is such a sweet story
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Life does get in the way. I think that all the time. Even when we do get together it seems like our minds are elsewhere.
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No need to enter me — I just wanted to say how much I enjoyed this post! 🙂 Just finished Everyone Is Beautiful two nights ago and have been raving about it since. Wonderfully written and so sincere. Good luck to all the entrants!
Hey, babe! (and hi to Ms. Center, too)
I’m just dropping in to say this sounds awesome. Thanks for the e-mail, I think; I did post it at Win a Book but this is one I’d like to keep for myself…
I would love to be entered Dar. I often go back to my childhood home and stay in my old bedroom which really makes the memories of the past flood back.
Here is my email.
vivienne_dacostaathotmaildotcom.
Katherine, YOU are beautiful. What a great photo! Thanks for the blog.. it sounds like you are busy busy!
Vanessa
gypsyrover21@yahoo.ca
Falling in love all over again…how romantic!! Please count me in.
mj.coward[at]gmail.com
Katherine, thank you so much for the wonderful post..when I turned 18 my Mom took me on a weekend trip to Sharon, PA for shopping and to stay at "Tara" a lookalike b&b …it was such a special time for us and I hope we can do it again soon! I would love the opportunity to read this book!
castellanoamy@yahoo.com
great post and the book sounds wonderful!
it is true, life does get in the way and its hard to find time to get together with the ones we love.
http://thebookworm07.blogspot.com/
I have been exactly where this character in the book is–packing it all up in a Uhaul and heading to somewhere new. BTW my sisters name is Katherine. I would love to read this book.
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I just ordered the audio from the library on this one, but please enter me for the hard copy! My e-mail is rnawrot at cfl dot rr dot com!
Please include me in your giveaway.
Thanks
Debbie
debdesk9@verizon.net
How sweet, this post is and it makes me think of my sister-in-laws, for I do not have sisters. We really do need to spend more time together!
Thanks so much,
Darby
darbyscloset at yahoo dot com
Katherine’s post is so beautiful, makes me want to have a sister! I’ve always wondered what I missed by being an only child.
jgbeads AT gmail DOT com
After reading this and writing this comment; I’m going to go call my sister!!
Thanks
nancyrobster@gmail.com
What a wondeful guest post. I don’t have sisters so I haven’t experienced this type of getaway. I did get to go to Germany with my mother as an adult as she grew up there and it was one of our best times together.
I’d love to read this book!
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Girls weekend sounds wonderful!
Beckie
loki304(at)tds(net)
Wow!! Thanks so much everybody for all these great comments!!! It is so terrific to read all these kind words!! What a pleasure to hear from everyone. Thank you!!!
I have a mom and two sisters also – and this would be such a cool idea to have a getaway with just them! The premise of her book also sounds like it might hit a little close to home – as for losing myself once I had a family.
Please enter me in the drawing!
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I can really relate to this guest post. My mom and sisters and I have only had one afternoon like that and it was about three years ago. All of the guys watched the kids and my mom and sisters and I picked blackberries behind our house for a few hours. It was just like we were kids again but without all of the fighting.
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I would love to win this one… I have been hearing so much about this book.
I would love to read this book as well. At the moment, I live in the country, while raising three boys (we moved here when I was pregnant with the third, so that I could stay home with them). Blogging has been my primary link to retaining some semblance of the me behind the role. It also helps me process the role.
Yorkie524@aol.com
I would love to be entered. I think this is a character I can really relate to.
carolsnotebook at yahoo dot com
I am the oldest of 3 girls and as we got pulled in different directions I always thought a trip together would be a great idea. But as they say, life, or in the case death, sometimes gets in the way as I lost one of my sisters last year. Since then I’ve tried especially hard to keep close with the other. signed, another Katherine.
This book sounds great and such a sweet pic of the author!
hey Dar,
Dont enter me. just wanted to drop by a quick hi and to say that i have this book and hate putting it down. Lovely reading.I have only got to the 25th page. cant wait to finish it. I am not a mom either but love reading it so far. i am tempted to read ur review bt wont. I like my suspense!! 🙂 have a lovely day.
Hi everyone, I just wanted to pop in and say how much I’ve enjoyed reading your comments on your own families or getaways. Really, really great comments. Thanks.
Katherine, thanks for popping in. The comments have been awesome.
Wow. It’s kind of sad to know
that Lanie only realises that she can put herself first sometimes too, after only 15 years.
Better late than never.
Please enter me in this contest!
loony_balooga_91@hotmail.com
Oh, and I blogged about your contest here:http://liveandbreathesmexily.blogspot.com/2009/04/booty-looty-3-bunch-of-great-giveaways.html
I just finished her other book, The Bright Side of Disaster, and just loved it! I would love to read this one, also. A girls’ getaway is a great idea, anybody want to come??? Dar, you have an award at my blog, come check it out:)
http://julyso4463.blogspot.com/